Five body language mistakes to avoid on a first date
Much of communication is not verbal and body language is especially important on a first date. Sending out the wrong signals is easily done and not easily corrected, so it’s best to clue yourself up on the do’s and don’ts of body language before going on a date. Here are a few pointers for what to avoid to make your date a success.
Jumpiness or fidgeting
Nerves can create an excess of energy, which may make you want to fidget or make exaggerated body movements. Messing with your nails, playing with cutlery or shifting in your seat can make you look insecure or even bored.
Try to expel as much energy as you can before leaving for your date, through exercise, cleaning or dancing to music. This will help you relax and eliminate excess body movements.
Nodding too much
Nodding at what your date is saying can look attentive, however too much nodding looks fake and insincere. If you nod too much during a conversation, it can appear as though you’re not really listening, so don’t go overboard with your agreement.
Crossing your arms
Some people feel comfortable with their arms crossed and may not notice they are doing it. However, on a first date, this kind of body language looks cold and even aggressive. Crossing your arms against someone means you are literally shutting them out and it could make your date wonder about whether you truly like them.
Intense eye contact
Eye contact is vital in communicating to your date that you like them, but too much eye contact can make you look intense and creepy. If nobody is talking, there’s no need to keep staring at your date – they won’t judge you for breaking their gaze once in a while.
Getting too close
On a first date, it’s better to keep your distance and let things happen naturally. If you make a deliberate effort to touch your date’s arm, try to hold their hand or brush their hair from their eyes, it could make them uncomfortable. In order to create genuine physical contact, take things slowly and only make a move when it feels right.
The most important thing to remember when going on a first date is not to panic. We all have good dates and bad dates and nowadays it’s never been easier to meet new people.
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