Fun and jealousy
In these modern days it is fairly easy to arrange naughty date thanks to the internet. There are so many adult dating sites that we can choose the one which suits us best in our quest for fun. We want to enjoy ourselves because it feels good and because not everyone wants to be part of a relationship. Being part of a couple can really take an emotional toll, and some of us prefer a more simple life away from the hassles of commitment. But just like love, our bedroom life can also give birth to feelings like jealousy; after all we can never completely step away from our emotional human nature.
For centuries we have been programmed into monogamy, meaning we only really aim at having the one life-partner. It has become ingrained into our brains that we must keep our other half to ourselves, and this can translate into jealousy when we feel someone is making a move on our partner. Jealousy can go even further into possessiveness, where we just want to control our partner and be the centre of their attention. Tribal lifestyles and religion are a major contributor to those feelings, as well as our instinct of preservation.
Being the only one
When it comes to bedroom fun, we like to feel that we are the best partner that person has ever had. Most of us don’t delude themselves that we are the best catch a woman will ever get, but in our heads we have had to be at least a good lay. Knowing that another person does a better job than us in bed will definitely drive our jealous feelings up the roof, even if we don’t care to admit for it. In this case, it is more that we feel insecure and inadequate rather than envying the other fella. This is why the last thing most people want to hear in bed is their partner talking about their exes, and that can lead to really uncomfortable moments.
A bit jealous
A little bit of jealousy or envy can actually be a healthy thing. It gives us something to look up towards, and gives us good motivation to get better at what we do. However too much jealousy and we become unpleasant, controlling and therefore not a good person to be around with. It’s all about finding the right line. You don’t want to repress your feelings until the point where you don’t feel jealousy; but you don’t want that jealousy to become all of your character. So don’t hide from it, instead learn how to accept it and control it.
Overcoming our insecurities
The bottom line is that if you feel secure that you are doing the best job you can, then you have no reasons to feel inadequate in bed. Sure there are people out there who are better in bed than you, but so what? You’re working through things, you’re communicating with your partner to always to try making things better, and that is honestly all you can really do in life. Just like with love, sex is something that you need to work on, we all do. If you envy someone for their exploits, then just talk to them and ask them for advice. You might find that they’ve been practicing and spending a lot of time on naughty dating sites, or maybe they’ve been catching up on their naughty literature. You might feel you will be lowering yourself towards that person but it is okay, we all have to eat humble pie some days. Just accept how you feel; and look at making the situation better, that way you can’t really loose… and your partner will be very happy too!