Good communication leads to good times
There is not denying the benefits of good communication inside a relationship. The more you talk, the better you partner understands you, the more honest you are with one another. This is the foundation of good relationships, the more we communicate the less we keep things to ourselves; removing all feelings of resentment and other things we keep bottled inside. But it is not just relationships that benefit from talking and opening up: your bedroom life can also hugely benefit from you talking your mind at the right times.
Dating and talking
A lot of us meet people online using dating websites these days, simply because it is easier than going out and meeting people face-to-face. We send out messages to people online whether it be for romance or for lust, and all our interactions with people online depend on how good our communication is with them. This is very true, especially when it comes to adult dating. It’s not enough to say something like: ‘I just want to meet and fuck’ on mysexhookups or any other adult dating site. Contacting people for naughty times is all about saying the right things to express what we want to do, but we need to stay polite, factual and informative. From describing our physical features to talking about the things we like or don’t like; it is essential that we communicate all that information so that people understand exactly what we are all about.
Learning to get better
Two people can feel very horny and yet end up not having the greatest time together. It almost doesn’t make sense as those two people were in a state of arousal, they got naked and something went wrong further down the line. Maybe the man is going too fast or too slow, maybe the woman didn’t do enough to keep the man excited, but who is going to know what went wrong if the two people don’t talk about it? If you are honest and tell your partner: ‘I liked this but I didn’t enjoy when you did that’, what’s the worst that can happen? Sure their ego and feelings might get hurt a bit, but as long as you’re nice about it then they will just try to be better next time, avoiding those past errors. So basically, you’re giving a chance for people to better themselves, rather than letting them do the same errors and pretending all is fine.
Loosen the ego
Not everyone can get everything right, and sex is certainly one of those areas where you will be worst before you get better. So if you girlfriend or boyfriend tells you you’re not great a doing something, then just take it as constructive criticism. Ask them how you could make things better and don’t hesitate to tell them about what you think they could do better. Yes it can really hurt your pride, it can feel like being told that you’re useless, but isn’t the person doing you a favour by telling you?
The bottom line is that as long as your partner isn’t being nasty about it then you should welcome anyone that encourages you at getting better at something. There is a difference between good communication and just being an asshole, and even if you mean well, just make sure to measure your words so your comments don’t get interpreted as hurtful ones. It’s all part of learning how to communicate, so just practice and your bedroom life will see some great benefits from it.