How to ask your friend out on a date?
Have you ever been in that situation where you really fancy one of your friends? You both get on really well, so well in fact that you’re thinking they might just be the best partner for you, but you’re just too scared to ask them out? Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us, after all we don’t always decide who we fall for. The thing about asking a friend out is that you’re worried that you will ruin your friendship, and things will never be the same again. But let’s be honest: between telling the truth and just pretending to be friends when you think more of that person; which one do you think is best? It’s time to face your feelings and tell the truth…
Fact#1 – They probably fancy you too!
So you and your friend are constantly spending time together and you’re so close to each other that you almost complement one another. Well if that is the case, you might not be the only one who starts developing some extra feelings. You’ve got to think about it: that person wouldn’t spend so much time with you if they weren’t at least comfortable doing so. It is very likely that as your feelings grow, so do theirs. Maybe you want to start observing how they behave around you, look at their body language and listen to what they say to you. Look at your friend in the eyes; are their pupils dilated? Does your friend flirt with you, do they feel comfortable putting their hands on you? Just take you time and read the signs, it will help you to determine if there is a chance that they might like you more than you think.
Fact#2 – Truth is always best
Once you’ve clearly developed some feelings for someone, not telling them is kind of lying to them. Okay not saying something isn’t always a lie, but pretending everything is a friendship when you clearly think more isn’t the most honest thing to do either. It feels like you have a secret agenda that your friend isn’t aware of. Furthermore if you don’t say anything and you just watch as your friend gets it on with other people, you’re just going to feel jealous and it won’t be long before those feelings start to poison your friendship. Trust us when we say this: you don’t want to be that ‘friend’ who is always around when the person you fancy is having fun, it will simply destroy you over time. Just tell the truth and face the consequences, it could be good or bad; and there is only one way to find out.
Fact#3 – Life is too short
We all have regrets, but those are best kept to a minimum. You might be scared of losing a friend if you declare your flame, but the reality is that we all lose friends over the years. The actual concept of friendship is one that is determined by the society in which we live. For example a lot of us have 300+ Facebook friends but how many of those people are we actually close to? Maybe you shouldn’t be scared to do things in the fear that you may lose people; sometimes you got to do what is right for you and face the consequences no matter the outcome. It’s a matter of balancing things: losing a friend versus the idea of regretting not having asked them out for the rest of your life.
Fact#4 – Know what you feel
Before you ask your friend out, you should figure out exactly what it is you feel. Are you in love or are you just feeling lust for them? Basically being in love might make it more worth it, as it is a greater cause and worth taking a gamble on. If it’s just lust, you can probably get that somewhere else, maybe visit a naughty dating site if you just want to have fun and you will keep your friendship intact. That is of course depending on how your friend feels for you. Just make sure you communicate your feelings and see what they say, maybe what can start as a casual fling can later progress into a fully committed relationship.