How to break up with an emotionally instable lover?
You no longer love your partner and you would like to finish the relationship. But how to do this when he is emotionally instable? How can you break-up with someone who says that will never recover? Maybe he has suffered some traumas such as a divorce and he can’t overcome another break up.
Unfortunately nothing is sure when it comes to love as it brings with it a huge risk. No matter how much you want to avoid doing a harm to him he is a grown up and he has to overcome this situation too. It’s not your fault that he is emotionally instable. Actually when he begs you not to go he is emotionally blackmailing you. The situation will surely do him harm, he will need his friend’s support or maybe even a psychiatrist but the great majority of people surpass a break-up successfully.
There is no other option for you. What can you do? Stay with him forever because you don’t want to hurt him? Leave in a lie? This won’t help neither him nor you. You will continue the relationship feeling pity for him and you may be denying him the chance to find someone who can really love him.
You can also suggest him to go to a psychiatrist in order to manage in solving his emotional problems. He will probably refuse this at the beginning so you must find the perfect way to convince him. Probably his instability has caused some problems also when it comes to your relationship so you should tell him that it is difficult for you to surpass these problems and you suggest a couple therapy. He will probably accept this idea easier. Before the meeting, try to call the therapist and explain the whole situation. Tell him that you intend to break-up with your lover.
Once you begin to discuss and solve the problems, he feels stronger and creates a bond with his therapist you can tell him that you have some doubts about your relationship. After that you should go. Call his friends, tell them what has happened and ask them to be near him. Unfortunately you can’t stay beside him anymore. You can’t help him forget you and accept the break-up. But, you’ve left him with people who can help him surpass this difficult moment.