How to split up with your boyfriend?
You feel that your relationship is not the same as at the beginning and the only solution to your problems seems to be the separation? Communication doesn’t exist anymore, neither the sexual attraction; although you have tried to find a solution to all these problems, nothing can be done to solve them?
You don’t know how to tell him that you want to split up with him. “When is the appropriate moment for something like that?” “What if I won’t meet anyone else and I’ll be alone for the rest of my life?” These questions cross your mind tormenting you. A separation and especially a divorce are difficult. The situation is harder when he didn’t cheat you and big conflicts didn’t take place. You should reflect on the advantages and disadvantages that the separation has on both of you. You shouldn’t be thinking only at yourself because he was, is and will be a part of your life. Here are some steps which will help you surpass together a break-up situation.
The first tip in this situation is not to ignore him. Sometimes women stop talking to their partners hoping that they will realize the relationship is over. You shouldn’t do this because these signals can be often understood in a wrong way.
Because you don’t want to hurt his feelings you prefer to lie to him. It isn’t the best solution as you don’t want to spend your time imagining all kind of stories. A separation is not at all a game especially when you used to have a serious love based relationship. Don’t try to postpone the sincerity moment by using lines such as “I feel like being alone for a time” or “I need some time of my own“. He may not forget you and live with the hope that these moments will pass and everything will be all right.
Be sincere with him and tell him the truth without asking your friend’s help and without telling him the bag news on the phone or by sending him an e-mail.
You shouldn’t try to force him take the first step by doing the things he hates the most such as jealousy scenes. You will only bring more tension to your relationship and the situation could become stressing for both of you. You shouldn’t put the blame on him especially if he didn’t do anything wrong.
When it comes to a separation no moment for approaching such a subject is appropriate. You shouldn’t establish an appointment at a certain place or hour. There isn’t a right moment to communicate a decision like that. Once you decided that separation is the best solution you should tell him immediately. Both of you deserve to be happy and the suffering should stop as soon as possible.
You shouldn’t be afraid of solitude. There are women who prefer to stay trapped in an unhappy relationship because they are afraid of being alone. The age doesn’t matter as long as a separation represents a new beginning.