Married to the World Cup?
Hollywood has really got us wrapped around its finger. Ever since the dawn of the ‘romcom’, men and women everywhere have been exposed to the idea of a public wedding proposal. The half-time sporting-event proposal has been immortalised in our minds by scenes from lots of films. The phenomenon is so prominent that it has been parodied by various shows, famously including Friends, when Phoebe proposes to her boyfriend, Mike.
With World Cup mania in full swing despite England’s dismal performance, those in serious relationships with a ticket to the finals in South Africa may be wondering if this is the time to pop the question. What could be more romantic than a proposal during a well-earned victory over the other team, right? Wrong.
Searching online for ‘dating UK’, you can find some interesting advice on proposals. Forums and dating sites related to engagements and marriage go wild on this topic and most fall on the do-not-do-it-in-any-circumstances side of the debate. Why?
The most articulate reason: “Most brides would prefer that magical moment to be between just the two of you. After all, you’ve got the rest of your lives to tell other people about your marriage but you’ve only got one engagement moment.”
This pretty much sums it up. The decision to get married is a serious one. More importantly, it is one made between two people, not two people and a crowd. A half-time proposal in the stands with World Cup fans means that you have the entire international community partaking in what most women want to be an intimate moment. While this seems like a thrilling way to commemorate how you two met, it is a potentially dangerous way to propose.
We are often fed images of women uttering a startled “yes!” to their men, but there are also some videos of women politely – or not so politely – saying “no”.
- Watch a game together at home, just the two of you, and propose at the right moment during the game.
- Propose after the game at a nice restaurant.
- Play the sport you two love and propose while playing – it will be original yet personal.
- Propose outside your team’s stadium.
The key is to remember that most women want their proposals to be private – that way they can cry, scream, jump up and down, clap their hands or giggle mercilessly at will.
For us English, we may be safe from sport-related proposals for the time being thanks to Fabio Capello and his team. On the other hand, maybe a ring would be just the thing to cheer your partner up…